BY MAYA NAIRIn a country that worships the "
lingam" but barely mentions the
yoni, is it
a surprise that double standards still exist?
Recently I've witnessed many instances where a distant male relative was
requested to perform final funeral rites while the deceased person's own
daughters were denied this privilege.
Why is it that only men are allowed to do the final rites for parents? When
will this change? I have never seen any female priests at temples in Kerala. Oh,
I forgot, we become "untouchables" for a few days every month. God, who gave us the
power to co-create human life and nurture it, does not want to see us for a few
days every month?? Everything we "touch" gets corrupted, indeed!
When did a woman's capability to create/shelter/nourish life in the womb
become such an inferior condition?
Female goddesses (grama devatha, kula devatha) existed in India, especially
in south India from centuries ago, maybe milleniums ago.. We don't want to be
treated as goddesses :) , just normal human beings capable of making decisions
on our own.
Time usually changes perceptions, makes people rethink their values. Laws
must be continuously improved to keep all citizens treated with fairness and
respect.
Although in India, we have made tremendous improvement in the last few
decades after independence, the caste system with its ravaging effects, is not
DISAPPEARING fast enough. In the states where illiteracy reigns, Brahmins still
hold most of the land and the money.
The Manu smrithi, one of the most morally evil documents ever written is
still treated as gospel by many Indians "frozen in time". The Vedas made very
little distinction between women and men. The object of attention was the soul,
which was gender-less. Old man Manu decreed that some men were superior to other
men and that women were the lowest of the low. To add to it, the epics of India
did very little to treat women with respect. A female was nothing but a womb for
a "hundred sons" and all women belonged to two classes, the evil witch or the
docile and passive Sita, Sati and Savithri who were just pawns for men and their
arrogance.
Although the practice of Sati was abolished, widows still are treated with
aversion, not allowed to attend celebrations or heads shaven and banished to
Varanasi to beg. Also, while a divorced male is called a "bachelor"and courted
by society, the divorced female is shunned and blacklisted. A woman who is raped
is usually considered "corrupted" and even her loved ones abandon her.
Women are neither angels nor the devil, but somewhere in between. We cry,
we laugh, we love, we hate and we live. Our complicated emotions are a result of
our complicated life systems that have the ability to love, nurture, nourish and
deliver a brand new human being. Sometimes we are overwhelmed by the
responsibility and the emotions that go with it. Our life is in tune with
nature's cycles, and the majority of us prefer peaceful negotiations that
unite rather than war and destruction.
I believe that our earth would've been a much safer and peaceful place if
women were equal partners in the decisions that affect its existence.