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An Emotional Puzzle This entry was posted on 3/20/2007 9:54 AM and is filed under Women. "What do women want?" is the title of a popular
American movie,
where the hero ( Mmmmmel Gibson  ) tries to listen to
his co-worker's (Helen Hunt) thoughts, determined to find out what women really really want. Sadly, by the end of the movie, he was still clueless... Why are women so emotional? Why can
they be more like men? ( Remember the
movie My fair Lady?)
Well, folks, think about this: when a baby is
born, when someone is dying,
when you see a dead bird on the street, when you hear of a horrible tragedy, how many of you can feel the compassion, the deep piercing pain in your heart, that renders you helpless, makes you misty-eyed, emphasizing even more your ignorance of the mysteries of the universe? From my favorite book of all times,
"Conversations with God" by Neale
Donald Walsh, I quote - "Emotion is the power which attracts. An animal - which you consider a lower form of life (even though animals act with more integrity and greater consistency than humans) - knows immediately if you are afraid of it. Plants - which you consider an even lower form of life - respond to people who love them far better than to those who couldn't care less". Emotion is "Energy in motion". An emotional
person has the strength to
change the world !-) because collective, concentrated energy is what creates our future. We all know that when like-minded people get
together and work towards
a dream, it will almost certainly materialize. This works both ways, whether we dream of positive ideals, such as world peace, eradicating poverty and abuse or creating war and bloodshed (just to keep a country pretending that its "the greatest country in the world".. <hint>  )So emotion itself is not a bad state of mind..
but can a woman understand
her own emotions? I doubt it. For, as in everything else in life, women have been largely ignored in almost all studies that are done in the world. And so who is the authority on women's emotions? women themselves. We just need to talk to them - right? WRONG! We are not encouraged to mention puberty,
periods, pregnancy, postpartum
depression or menopause at public places. Forget the offices where we are forced to act like men, talk like men and behave like men.. Even in our girls-only pajama parties, most women prefer not to talk about their feelings, experiences or worries. Why is it so hard for us to speak about the emotional cauldron that is burning inside of us? Okay, so the "cauldron" is not burning all the time, but we have no clue when it will turn up! That's our biggest dilemma. Is it because we are ashamed that we are
emotional creatures? Because we'd
like to put up this facade of serenity so that no one will ever guess our emotions? Most women do not talk to their children about
the emotional side of being
feminine. The puberty years when the hormones come in starting a roller coaster of feelings that in one second may take us to the heights of ecstasy and in the next, plunge us to the depths of depression. Or the fact that when the whole world is celebrating the fact that you are expecting a child, a whole battalion of new fears show up every day while the hormones play havoc on your fragile nervous system one more time. After the baby is born, here comes the crashing
hormones singing another tune this
time, withdrawing all the euphoria of seeing our newborn - with another one of those nasty depression episodes yet again. Oh, by the time the kids are grown up, get ready for the final frontier!! Menopause - girl, oh girl!! Its good to know that we are not alone, and that
our bodies, our emotions are
nothing to be ashamed of. Metabolism changes, panic attacks, hot flashes, mood changes etc are handled better if we understand that we are not sick, that these are natural changes to our body. Of course, its best to see a doctor and take care of any health problems that arise. It is the responsibility of each parent to
help their children appreciate each phase
of their life, and so we must understand the
positive aspects of our emotional changes,
puberty, when a girl is getting physically and
emotionally ready for creating life, pregnancy, when the body is actually
creating a brand new human being, without any
instructions or help from the outside world, and
menopause, when the woman is finally
free to enjoy the fruits of her labor and focus
more on herself and her desires.
As very little research has been conducted on
these issues, most websites such
as webmd only deal with the physical aspects of
our health, rarely the emotional.
Some sites that touch upon the emotional
challenges that women face are:
http://www.prevention.com/healthpoll/
http://www.medical-library.net/sites/framer.html?/sites/_emotions.html http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/2146003.stm http://www.vault.com/articles/Women-and-Emotions-in-the-Workplace-17557987.html CommentsDisplay comments as (Linear | Threaded)
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