BY ARUN MISRA*

In ancient texts, like Mahabharat,  there is a story about a king, who existed thousands of years ago, desired to experience how the women, especially his queen enjoyed the act of  sex.  Since the king, probably, had to argue and beg a lot to get the queen ready to have sex with him. The perpetual problem of men, since time immemorial. But those were the advanced  scientific ages, where the things like : sex-change operation,  vagina rejuvenation, breast augmentation,  increasing penis size, silicon implants,  hormonal treatments and other forms of plastic surgery, were long forgotten.   People used to visit a  Guru, a risi,  who  recited  a mantra, and desired things were accomplished in a split second.

The king, thus, went to a  risi in the forest and asked for help. ‘Can you  transform me into a woman, Gurudev ? I have experienced sex as a man, seems very pleasurable, but I wish to experience the same act as a woman.’  The primitive texts of Kamasutra, Anang Rang,  Koka Pandit etc were non-existent then, and some people have a strong urge of ‘inventing the wheel again’ and accomplish things on their own level.  The guru, recited a mantra, with his eyes closed, touched the king on the forehead, and  the king turned into a beautiful woman.

The smart people who are now called gay and lesbians, had not appeared on the earth  then, either.

Hence the king, back in the palace, with the consent and help of his queen, slept with numerous men to experience the act of sex as a woman. After a while, the king was expected to go back to the guru and risi, who would have changed him, with mantra, back  as a man and king. The king, now a woman, refused to become a man again, and said, ‘ I enjoy sex more as a woman than I used to,  as a man. Hence I am not going to  change to manhood.’ Is there a lesson  or moral for all of us, in this story ?

Who has more of sex-hormones and/or sex-drive ? Man or Woman ? It can be argued that  it is very specific, since  a particular man may have more sexual desire,  more of sex-hormones, and may enjoy the sex-act  more than a particular woman, and/or  vice versa.  But what should we conclude in general and  for an average situations, since  ‘men are from mars, and women from venus.’  Instead of putting my opinions to test, I submit a few more examples  to illustrate the point.  Prophet Mohammad said, ‘men can have four wives’. Seems very smart to me. Did the prophet realize the need for men to have multiple sex-partners ?
Kings and Nawabs have exceeded this  in having  Harems.

The same Sanskrit texts also say that women have a higher degree of ‘kam’ (sexual desire), than men. But the women also have  at the same time a far higher degree of ‘lajja’ (embarrassment), are bashful, hence subdue and hide their passions and control their sexual advances,  compared to men.  Hence the song, ‘sautan ke sang…’,  ‘husband spending time/night with other woman’ and the jealousy and competition between  women for the same man. Equally prevalent is, ‘one woman chased by two men’.  Lord Vishnu, sleeps on the bed of serpents, since Laksmi will not let the Lord sleep on the earth, as Laksmi (Sridevi) is jealous of Bhudevi (earth), the other consort of Vishnu.  Lord Ram had one Sita, while Lord Krishna had several Gopis including Radha and kept collecting more wives, when Krishna moved from Gokul to Mathura and  Dwarka.

Once the women reach menopause, their hormone levels go down, child bearing is not possible, the sex-drive starts fading.  Their elderly men,  spouses or companions, then start looking for the company of younger women who get aroused more easily or seek  the comfort of wealth and/or security from  the older men. This has created a huge empire of prostitutes and call girls (also call men), for the sake of more exciting, and less boring, sex and romance.  Many politicians and affluent people,  thus,  maintain concubines and mistresses. Many of these fall from grace, and get into legal troubles when their affairs are exposed. The guy who taught me at the driving-school, three decades ago, in St Louis, had both a wife and a girl friend at the same time, and will  enjoy speaking about his love-life with both women, while driving.

He said, ‘One woman is not enough for me.  Once a month  woman are alright and easy,  but the other three weeks of the month, it takes so much of effort to lay them down. Hence I have  the second one, in case the first one  is not readily available. My sex-life become less stressful and easier, thus.’ I learned a big secret in infidelity.

Aren’t some men in India very lucky to have two wives ? I know several of them. Men get  married in villages at an early age to a village, illiterate girl, who stays in the ancestral village home for all their lives, see their husbands once or twice a year, when the man comes home from the job in a far away city.

The women get children from these occasional encounters, or through the letters  sent by their husbands  in mail. The husband starts getting education, gets a nicer job in the city, marries again, this time an educated  colleague at work,  and stars living with her in the city.  Thus, the man maintain two separate families, and has children from both spouses.  The children at village, are not educated like their mother, and tend to the family  farm,  while  the second wife in the city raises few educated professional children. Some men are  smarter and keep both wives in the same household, the two women complimenting each other as sisters, the younger  doing more domestic chores thus helping the older wife in cooking and cleaning, as the older one  is getting frail and weak.  

After, all in Mithila in ancient times, Risi Yajnvalkya had two wives, Maitreyi and Katyayini ,

With Maitreyi, the risi discussed philosophy and spirituality, and with Katyayini, enjoyed the finer (or mundane) things in life like : food, sex, music, art  and playfulness, since the risi had a very wide array of interests and talent.
But some men (we hear much less about women though) have a higher dose of hormones in them, which makes them to chase  younger women, since they  need  to put their pants down, quite often.
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*  Financial Planner and Realtor in Atlanta.
Web : www.arunmisra.com E-Mail : misrausa@yahoo.com

 

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